How to deal with jealousy in a relationship
It is normal to feel a little jealous at times if you are in a relationship, especially if you have very strong feelings for your partner. Occasional jealousy is all right and can even contribute to the relationship a little excitement and enthusiasm. But when this envy becomes more regular, extreme and even overwhelming, what to do?
Experiencing what happens when we allow our jealousy to overtake us or to influence the way we feel about ourselves and the world around us can be scary.
That is why knowing where our jealous feelings really come from and learning how to cope with envy in positive, adaptive ways is vital to so many aspects of our lives. Starting from our interpersonal relationships to our jobs to our individuals.
Ways to cope with your jealousy:-
Calm down and remain vulnerable
We should find ways to come back to ourselves and soften, no matter how jealous we are. We can do this by acknowledging our feelings with consideration first. Note that our emotions appear to move in waves no matter how intense we are. Without acting on it, it’s possible to embrace and understand our resentment.
Believe in yourself in order to eliminate jealousy
Critically evaluate why you’ve been feeling this way lately before you talk to your partner. Feeling jealous can suggest that you have underlying problems of low self-esteem or insecurity. You may think you’re not good enough for your partner, so they may leave you for a better person. Learn to value your good attributes, and realise that for the best, your partner is certainly with you.
Talk about it
It’s crucial to maintain open, honest contact with our partner in a relationship. We have to listen to what they say without being defensive or jumping to conclusions if we want to have their respect and for them to have ours. This open communication line is not about unloading our insecurities on our partner, but rather encouraging us to be kind and linked, even when we feel in it.This inevitably helps to do the same for our partner.
There’s no doubt that coping with the many emotions surrounding jealousy requires a certain degree of emotional maturity.
Practice meditation to reduce jealousy
Meditation methods allow you to pay attention to your thoughts and emotions without judging or criticising them when they emerge. It will help you recognise any trends that follow, like things that happen before you feel jealous, to increase your understanding of jealousy.
Mindfulness will also cause you to feel more relaxed with envy.
Forget about your past relationships
One’s past experiences leave an eternal impression on one’s emotional state. Additionally, whether your partner has lied or left you hurt from the previous relationship, chances are that in their new relationship they will have big confidence problems. Past causes will weaken your new relationship, and envy will move to its peak.
Give it some time
If you’ve previously experienced envy, you probably already realise that with time, jealousy disappears. After you deal with your emotions, it might feel less painful, of course, but once whatever you felt jealous about is over, it can also decrease.
You’re much less likely to feel the need to equate yourself or your situation with someone else as time passes. But the optimistic emotions that you have will remain.